Healing, Harmony & Relationships

Healing is defined as finding the “harmony within self, between others and harmony with the earth”. When we are in harmony we find peace within. Harmony is difficult to keep because the relationships of our lives are dynamic. That is they are always in motion. There is no life in things that are stagnate. 

The reason to leave relationships is so that one can go on growing emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. Relationships that have a pattern of invalidation probably should be left. Even enlightened people who are living in a toxic environment with no change, will suffer the effects of the toxicity. Having the courage to say I am valuable and I deserve to be valued is an amazing gift. 

Relationships are the only place that gives us opportunity to heal, whether it be with self, others or our Higher Power or God. Disharmony creates pain and illness. While change is painful, it is also necessary because it is the truth of the universe. Anything that doesn’t change has no vitality.

The wounds originally came from being separated from our source of nurturance and love. It comes because we have to grow and not being separated originally (birth process) would have destroyed us and our host (mother). While that physical separateness is necessary, we are still connected emotionally and spiritually. This is the great paradox, how can we be  separate and connected at the same time? We must be separate to honor our uniqueness but loved, to nurture our growth. Being loved unconditionally resolves the paradox, in fact it is the only resolution possible. The wound is always a wound of being disapproved of by the love source that we value. The irony is that as we come to love our selves unconditionally, we invite others to love us, not to complete us but to add upon the love that is already there. We must overcome the disapproval virus that has infected us, the irony of this is that we must let others disapprove of us without being defined by it. That requires a deep spiritual love of self, knowing we are truly a child of God. This is the knowledge of the heart.

Please know my dear you are loved and loving.